First, note the knobs on the male's mandibles - the female's are hardly visible. Then, note how the male's head is nearly as broad as the pronutum - the female has a much smaller head which has a couple of little bumps on it. These little bumps are a good identification clue.
Female stag beetle, 37 mm, and a female lesser stag beetle, 21 mm.
Colchester, Essex, UK. Photo by Maria Fremlin. June 13 2006.
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Sexing Lesser Stag Beetles - Here is a very good page from África Gomez's excellent BugBlog.
I hope that this page has helped you. Don't hesitate in giving me your feedback as I have had a lot of trouble learning how to sex these beetles. Just read Stag beetles in my garden if you want know about some of my mistakes.